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Deplorable Me

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Kevin Fong

As we approach Election Day, furious rhetoric has turned our country into what NPR called "The Divided States of America." Donald Trump has sown offensive messages throughout his campaign, disparaging just about everyone. A report on "The Trump Effect" by the Southern Poverty Law Center found that the levels of anxiety, fear, and bullying in schools have increased, due in part to the tone of the Trump campaign. But he isn't the only candidate who is guilty of "us vs. them" tactics.

Hillary Clinton also said that "you can put half of Trump supporters into what I call the basket of deplorables ... racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, Islamaphobic, you name it." She later apologized for the offensive remark, but affirmations from my left-coast friends supported Clinton's comment, as they brought forth images about "those deplorable, backwoods, uneducated, rednecks and yahoos." The only image that came up for me was my friend, Donna Burgraff.

When I met Donna in 1994, we couldn't have been more different. She was born and raised in West Virginia. I was born and raised in California. Donna's ancestors, which include the legendary McCoys, emigrated to Appalachia in the 1700's. My ancestors immigrated to the U.S. less than a century ago. Donna was raised on biscuits and gravy. I was raised on rice and stinky tofu. Donna has three graduate degrees, and I have a bachelor's degree. She would be a conservative in my world, and I would be flamboyant in hers. She is a Republican, and I am a Democrat.

Despite our differences, Donna and I hit it off from the beginning. I credit the curiosity we had about each other that compelled us to figure out what we had in common. A lot, as it turned out. We are proud of our respective Appalachian and AsianPacific Islander cultures. We love to laugh and learn. We both come from blue-collar families who value hard work, loyalty, hospitality, and pride that is mixed with humility. We extend those values to one another because we see each other as family.

The thought that people might refer to Donna and her people as "deplorable," saddens and offends me, because she is part of my family. If Donna is deplorable, then so am I.

For the record, I am voting for Hillary Clinton. I believe she is the most qualified candidate this country has ever had, and she will make a great president. That said, she has a lot of work to do to make things right for my family in Appalachia.

I asked Donna, who plans to vote for neither Clinton nor Trump, what Hillary needs to do. She shared that one of the first things President Bush did in 2001 was reach across the aisle to Senator Ted Kennedy and begin to collaborate on joint efforts. "There may be an opening with Paul Ryan," Donna continued. "She needs to have him and his family over for a meal, build a relationship and some common ground to move forward together."

Donna made me think about how it's everyone's responsibility to look beyond our differences and work to reunite the country. She continues to be my teacher, guide, and shining example of how we can establish common ground that makes way for deep and abiding relationships. We have our eyes set on Nov. 8. But what will happen on Nov. 9 and beyond? As Donna said, "whoever gets elected, half of the country is going to be pissed."

We cannot write off the half opposite our own as deplorable, because we are all in the same basket. I ask you to find people in your life who hold different beliefs, cherish them and work like hell to find common ground. If you can do that, you will enrich your life, expand your family, and move our country forward as the United States of America.

Visit Kevin Fong's website at elementalpartners.net.

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