Whether it's whose dog is barking too much or where a tree falls on a property line, when your home is only a few feet away, sooner or later you may have a conflict with your neighbors. But instead of having an awkward, silent standoff, here are some easy solutions for resolving or controlling conflict:
1. Break down the problem, not the neighbor. Ehow.com explains that many arguments get so heated people forget about the initial dispute and begin attacking each other. Stay focused on the real issue and finding a solution.
2. Vent about the problem before you approach your neighbor. Sleep on it, write your thoughts down, talk to a friend or spouse, hit the gym or scream, movesmart.com recommends. Try to get as much anger out before approaching your neighbor so that you will have a clearer head to getting the problem solved than causing more drama.
3. Don't get other neighbors involved. You don't want your neighbor feeling like several of you are "ganging" up on him, according to http://www.ohmy.apartmentratings.com. The more people talking about the issue to the neighbor or behind his back will only fuel the fire.
4. Mediate, don't litigate. Calling the police or suing a neighbor might offer a solution to a neighborhood stalemate, but it doesn't solve the problem of how you will have to deal with this person in the future, http://www.revolutionhealth.com explains. Mediation with a neutral third party leaves options open after the dispute has been resolved, and that can lead to healthier interactions in the future. Plus, you avoid legal fees.
5. Dinner or Lunch for Two. Invite your neighbor out to eat at a neutral place to hammer out the problem. Create a light atmosphere so that you both feel comfortable exchanging ideas and asking questions that will lead to a resolution.
6. Get to Know Your Neighbor. Most conflicts between neighbors begin because one or both households never took the time to introduce themselves when moving in. Peopleslaw.org explains that this is an often over-looked strategy. Even if a problem has occurred, try to get to know your neighbor before making the complaint. Introduce yourself, discuss some general interests and then, in time, raise your complaint.
7. Control what you can. If you share responsibility in the issue at hand, recognize it and do what you can to resolve your end. If an apology is necessary, make it. Showing some compromise may make your neighbor follow suit.
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